Why most men facing 498A, DV, maintenance etc are into private sector jobs?

Why most men facing 498A, DV, maintenance etc are into private sector jobs?

Most of such men facing these issues are into professional jobs like IT, finance, BPO etc. Very few will be from business or such related work, professions like CA, doctors etc.  There is a reason behind it too.

Why filing divorce can be dangerous for men

The problems created by wives and in-laws, many men are fed up, mentally tortured, and plainly looking for a way out of daily uncertainty that has become their life.

So filing for divorce seems like a natural way to proceed.

If you married daughter from a feminist family, then once you file divorce, any or all of the following can happen:

  1. Wife will file DV (domestic violence case), and ask for both monthly maintenance, and compensation.
  2. Or she may file CrPC 125 and ask for monthly maintenance.  Here the advantage for her is that she may or may not make serious allegations as in DV, so she keeps one option open to show that she can still come back.
  3. Your wife may file RCR (Restitution for conjugal rights), which means wife says that she wants to come back.  Then you get trapped because in front of the family court, you appear like the dowry-seeking, not-satisfied-with-one-wife kind of husband that the old TV serials used to show.  And your wife will appear to be the ablaa-naari who wants to dutifully go back to husband’s home but is so scared right now that she stays at he parents’ home.
  4. She could simply file HMA 24 to claim interim maintenance while you run in courts for next few years trying to speed up the case.  Again, she will be able to show she is the hapless woman left by husband because that story is all too easily believed by the white knights in society.
  5. Wife/in-laws will file IPC 498A on you.  This may happen before, after and any time gap with DV or maintenance cases.
  6. Along with IPC 498a, other things like IPC 406A (recovery of stridhan), 324 (assault), IPC 506 (criminal intimidation) and such sections are added usually too.
  7. The latest trend is that wife may file IPC 377 on you (unnatural sex), IPC 376 (rape) or 354 (outraging modesty of a woman) on your father or your brother etc.

So what happens usually is that once people face these cases, they forget about divorce and spend their time fighting above cases.  The whole scenario changes to proving you are not a bad husband/person from proving wife was not a good wife!

Most husbands who file divorce are totally unprepared

Most people who apply do it out of frustration to get out of their situation.  They do not collect much evidence, and all they have to tell the court is that their wife has left them and hasn’t come back.  At maximum, they will have some messages from wife where she says that she will come back if he takes a different house, doesn’t stay with parents etc.  Such messages will not prove anything conclusively whether it was wife who left him deliberately or she was troubled by her parents which will be her routine answer.

They are unprepared to handle the DV, 498a, maintenance cases filed by wife.

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